October 26, 2021

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The Primal Scream: America’s Mothers Are In Crisis


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(Phone rings) Welcome to the New York Times Primal Scream Line, where the floor is yours to yell, laugh, cry or vent, for a solid minute. (Beep)


I just wanted to say


Aaaah! Aaah!


Im so sick of my goddamn kids.


This pandemic has made me realize that maybe Im not cut out to be a mother.


I am doing my sixth load of laundry today.


God, every day I think I cant do this again, but then I do. I get it, I get up and I do it. Because thats just what parents do, right?


Aaaaah!

The pandemic exposed “balance” for the lie that it is. Now, a generation is teetering on the edge.


This Is a Primal Scream



It’s not just the working from home, the record unemployment or the remote schooling. This is a mental health crisis, too.

By Jessica Grose

All I hear all the livelong day is Mom, mom, MOM! Mom, MOMMMM, mom, MOM, mom!! MoM, mommommommom, MOMMM!! Aaaaah!! What?! Oh, nevermind.

Three Mothers, On the Brink

Eleven months, multiple breakdowns, one harrowing realization: They’ve got to get back up and do it all again tomorrow.

By Jessica Bennett

I wish I had the energy to scream. All my energy just goes into getting through every day, until I can go to sleep. I have three kids, all in virtual schools since March, and work full time. And it just feels like failing, every day, at everything I do. And I just want to change, want to be by myself for one minute. I dont know how to keep doing this. But there isnt really another option.



This Isn’t Burnout, It’s Betrayal

A psychiatrist suggests ways moms can fight back when the system is stacked against them.

By Pooja Lakshmin

(singing) Im going to [bleep] lose my mind if something doesnt happen soon.

Will Biden’s Stimulus Plan Help?



How the president’s proposed stimulus package might affect women and families.

By Alisha Haridasani Gupta

[Crying] I cannot remember the last time I did not worry, I did not spend my day worrying about so much stuff. Every day is something different. I just want to wake up and go through my day and not worry, and not wonder, and not know what the future holds. Because this right here sucks. And Im sick of it. Im so sick of this.



How to Help Working Parents Right Now

From flexible schedules to paid leave, what the government, employers and the rest of us can do.

By Claire Cain Miller

Let’s Hear It for Sabbaticals, Subsidies and Nanny Reimbursement



How some employers and governments are supporting working parents.

By Claire Cain Miller and Dani Blum

There is just so much talking. Talking all the time. All day long. Words. Words. Words. So much talking. I just, I need no more talking. No more words. I need no more. No more. So much talking. I just need silence. Please. Silence.



Know Your Workplace Rights

We asked experts to cut through the red tape and legal jargon. Here’s how to protect yourself.

By Jancee Dunn

I love my kids. I love my family. But we are together all of the time. Like, I never appreciated teachers and school as much as I did now. I dont want to be my childs teacher. I am not doing good with this. But, all things considered, things are cool. Somebody else rear my children, please. I miss going out. I miss being drunk. I miss dancing.

Are you a working parent who needs support?

Mental health resources

If you are having thoughts of suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 (TALK) or go to SpeakingOfSuicide.com/resources.

Parents seeking emotional support can contact the National Parent Helpline at 855-427-2736.

If you are a recent mother looking for support, there are free online support groups offered by Postpartum Support International, with specific programs for Black moms, NICU parents, Spanish-speaking moms, queer parents and more.

Legal advice

The Center for WorkLife Law offers a free help line for parental legal rights. Call 415-851-3308 or email [email protected]

The National Women’s Law Center provides complimentary consultations with attorneys in their legal network. Call 202-319-3053 or request assistance at their website.

A Better Balance, a nonprofit legal advocacy group, operates a confidential help line to assist callers with understanding their workplace rights. Call 833-633-3222.

Food and housing assistance

United Way operates a 24-hour help line that connects callers to local food programs, housing assistance, health care resources and mental health support. Dial 211 from your phone.

Mutual Aid Hub offers a nationwide listing of food pantries and community refrigerators and freezers.

Credits

EditorsJessica Grose, Jessica Bennett, Melonyce McAfee, Farah Miller

ResearchSharon Attia, Dani Blum

Design and productionDeanna Donegan, Adriana Ramic

Photo editorTiffanie Graham

Audio editorRob Dozier

Print designMary Jane Callister, Shannon Robertson, Elana Schlenker, Felicia Vasquez